You may wonder why it is a success tip to give admiration so let me qualify that a little more by saying not everyone craves admiration but according to relationship expert John Gray, that is a state most men really feel good about getting from their woman.
I know that for me, it’s just little things like letting me know that she thinks I’m doing good things or that she is impressed with my knowledge or understanding of certain subjects.
It’s also about being admired by the public for things we do. It could be as simple as a “great job” comment to the cleaning staff to let them know you notice they are doing it right.
For public speakers or public people, telling them they are inspiring you or that you’d want to be just like them is a great compliment to them. Don’t be afraid to reach out to them to let them know – they will never belittle your compliment.
For your kids
Same goes for your children. Tell them how nice of a drawing they are doing even if it’s not perfect, put yourself in their shoes of learning something new. Encouragement goes a long way in self esteem and when you give admiration you are giving tons of encouragement.
It’s interesting to learn about the 6 primary needs of men and woman in John Gray’s book Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus where he talks about the top 3 needs of caring, respect and inclusion for women and trust, appreciation and admiration for men. He also explains that each of these needs are complimentary to each other. For example, by giving trust to a man, he will automatically give back caring. Same goes the other way. By giving caring to a woman, she will automatically give back trust.
I know it’s not always easy to remember that our partner doesn’t necessarily need the same things we do, but if we can remember it helps greatly to alleviate our feelings of loss and helps us to love our partner even more.
What do yo think about admiration? Do you give admiration to your spouse? If not, try it and let me know how it goes by posting below. I would also love to hear what you thought of this article.