Groom For Success
What does it mean to groom for success? Like every parent, I would love my kids to be seen as well behaving kids and that is certainly a worthy goal to have. You may not realize until it’s too late that you should have done things differently. Well, actually, it’s never too late, but it’s a lot more work later.
I am not an expert but I do have the experience of raising two daughters to young adults and having two new babies so I get some points for that right? In any case, I do find that I am doing some things differently and I really enjoyed Dani Johnson‘s Grooming the next Generation For Success. Her no-nonsense approach is refreshing in this day and age. Some may say she’s a little old fashioned and you may not agree with all her tips but you can’t argue with success. Her children are all grown today and are exceptional adults.
Look me in the eye
I really loved when I tried a tip to groom for success as simple as asking my daughter to look me in the eye. I never realized how powerful that was. I don’t exactly remember what the scenario was but I needed to tell my daughter (our 3 year old Savannah) that she did something I didn’t like or that she should not be doing. Normally, I would just tell her that I though she was a good girl and that she makes papa sad by doing this and I would like her to not do it again.
This time, however, I followed Dani’s advice and purposely told Savannah to stop what she was doing and look me in the eyes while I was telling her that. Normally, she would be busy not wanting to listen and would say yes to whatever I told her but by using this tip she was 100% more attentive to what I was saying. It made a huge difference in her behavior.
There’s more to it
Obviously, there’ more to groom for success that having your kids look you in the eye when you discipline them such as teaching them the value of work, the value of listening and how to prepare them for social situations. For example, Dani talks about preparing your kids ahead of time. For example, if you are heading out to the doctor’s office with them, you take a minute before leaving home and tell them what you expect of them. Such as “We are going to the doctor and I expect your best behavior. Papa will be so proud of you if you listen and are quiet when we are there. If you are good, we will go to the park after.”
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